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Apr. 22nd, 2025 03:36 pm
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1.5 miles again. Definitely finding it harder to get up that incline than I should, but now that my legs aren't sore (yesterday was a rest day, Sunday was mostly a rest day), the best way to address that is to start hitting the cemetery hill, for some more intense cardio in smaller doses.

Due to the fact that I'm sleeping till midday, work makes this hard, but certainly by the weekend, if I don't report running in the cemetery, call me on it!

Breaking news

Apr. 22nd, 2025 12:57 pm
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Every day, it's something.

So just as my wife and stepdaughter's prospects of staying with someone (for a couple of months) to save on expenses has fallen through, my prospects of living with my best friend to save on expenses are dimming:

My friend says googling indicates the law considers the roommate a subtenant even if he's not on the lease, doesn't pay rent (he does pay internet and I think contributed to the installation of the mini-split AC/heater), and only lives there part-time. This means he can't be evicted without cause, nor have the rent raised, except under specific conditions that aren't met here.

So now, instead of informing him of his last day in October or November, we're down to strategizing how to ask nicely and offer money for best chances of success, and I'm back to looking at properties on Trulia.
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This is part 2 of my book club notes on The Way Spring Arrives and Other Stories. [Part 1.]


"The Restaurant at the End of the Universe: Tai Chi Mashed Taro" by Anna Wu (2016), tr. Carmen Yiling Yan

A time-traveling meditation on the rise and fall of people and societies. )


"The Futures of Genders in Chinese Science Fiction" by Jing Tsu (2022) [essay]

Discussion of the depiction and participation of people of marginalized genders in Chinese SF. )


"Baby, I Love You" by Zhao Haihong (2002), tr. Elizabeth Hanlon

In the not-too-distant future, a programmer works on a holographic virtual baby while his real family life falls apart. )


"A Saccharophilic Earthworm" by BaiFanRuShang (2005), tr. Ru-Ping Chen

After a disabling accident, a theater director believes she can teach flowers to dance. )


"The Alchemist of Lantian" by BaiFanRuShang (2005), tr. Ru-Ping Chen

Every time a godlike being helps a human, their own exile in the mortal world is extended. )

Humor

Apr. 21st, 2025 08:54 pm
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On a more cheerful note, two pieces of humor:

Back when I started studying geology last year, I focused on igneous rocks, which are so far my favorite. Thus, the word "igneous" came up a few times at the table, and my wife joked that it always sounds to her like a bad thing, like "igneous behavior." She pronounced this in a very haughty, disapproving voice.

By analogy with "ignoble" or "ignominious", apparently.

So "igneous" has come to be an inside joke for something we disapprove of.

Well, last week I was looking at touristy places in Europe that we could meet up at in future years, and I read aloud from Wikipedia that such-and-such a hill was made of igneous rock.

My low-energy, out-of-shape wife: "All hills are igneous. A hill is a very igneous thing to do to a person."

I'm still laughing.

(I, of course, am lamenting that I'll be leaving a hilly neighborhood for a "flat-as-a-pancake, biker's paradise!" neighborhood, to quote a real estate agent on Trulia. How am I supposed to get in my daily hill reps??!)

*

I like backrubs. Backrubs are awesome. I will miss them.

My wife likes to give silly backrubs: I have been a piano, a samba drum, a hippodrome, and many other things while her fingers dance around according to her whim.

A couple days ago (we've been trying to fit in as many as we can before the end of the month!) she announced that what she was doing was an arpeggio.

Later on, she was doing something similar, and my unmusical self asked, "Is that an arpeggio?"

Her: No, these are horses! But if I were playing the piano, this would be a trill, not an arpeggio.

Me: I'm sorry, I need to learn to tell trills, arpeggios, and horses apart!

Me: ...Which is now a sentence that has been uttered in this house, lol.

Everything keeps happening so much

Apr. 21st, 2025 08:39 pm
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First my stepdaughter breaks a tooth and is in a lot of pain. Then her mother talks her (she's agoraphobic and generally phobic) into going to the dentist, because broken tooth extractions are super easy, barely an inconvenience!

Well, no one had reckoned with her giant roots, nor with the fact that the broken tooth was adjacent to an impacted wisdom tooth that was pressing on it. "This tooth is my brother, and I'm not letting it go!"

It took 30 minutes to get the tooth out, and another 30 minutes to dig out all the residual roots. Stitches were required. By the end, she was shellshocked.

In addition to her obviously much greater suffering and my wife having to try to manage the situation and to accompany her, this meant that my week consisted of a lot of "Can you take her? She's going tonight/tomorrow/Monday?" (with constantly postponed appointments bc agoraphobia), "Can you get her meds from the pharmacy?", "She might need to go to the emergency room", and "She thinks she has an infection."

*

Then the plan was for them to stay with my stepdaughter's grandmother for a month or two after they arrive in Brazil, to save money while they look for an apartment. So Murphy's Law dictates that elderly grandmother suddenly gets hospitalized last week, she's going to be in the hospital for a while while they figure out what's going on with her, she will probably need surgery, and she will probably be post-op, with lots of people coming and going and probably staying over, when my wife and stepdaughter arrive in Brazil in 10 days.

So now there's the inconvenience and expense of scrambling to find an Airbnb, and then the pressure to find an apartment as soon as possible after arriving, to cut down on the Airbnb expense.

*

Then, on Saturday, when I was coming home from my 8-mile geology walk, still on the phone with my friend working out living arrangements, I came up the driveway to find my wife on her e-trike heading out to cancel her gym membership (which has to be done in person) and pick up her daughter's meds.

She interrupts me.

"There's something wrong with the bike!"

She pedaled around in the parking lot while I inspected it.

"Yeah, looks like you've got a flat."

Of course this is the first time this has happened, so neither of us has any idea how to change a tire.

So that's why immediately after my hike Saturday, I had to head out again to the pharmacy, while my wife watched YouTube videos on how to change a tire and tube, ordered spare parts, and asked around the neighbors to find out who had a pump we could borrow.

And now I'm going to have to watch the videos she found and learn how to change a tire, because she's completely overwhelmed, struggling with a depression flare-up (guess why!), and "Technically I'm an engineer (software engineer)" (said in the same tone of voice as "Technically, I'm a doctor (PhD in dead languages).") I am a bit more savvy than she is, though I still intensely dislike anything that requires me to work with my hands and pay attention to what I'm doing.

And, of course, we still have to figure out how to sell this bike on short notice.

The one spot of bright light is that she was able to cancel her gym membership over the phone. I'm still skeptical that in a month they'll be like, "What? No, you have to come in person!" but maybe it will work.

Things keep happening so much!

Crafting

Apr. 21st, 2025 03:04 pm
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Hey all, if you'd like to join the crafting hangout, it is tonight from 6-8pm ET!
 
Video encouraged but not required!
 
Topic: Crafting Hangout
Time: Mondays 6:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)
 
Join Zoom Meeting
 
Meeting ID: 973 2674 2763

Good weekend

Apr. 21st, 2025 10:30 am
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Saturday was a working day with employees here working. It was hot hot hot and sunny. There was a breeze but it only helped so much.

We got half of the required blueberries pulled. Those blueberries are the wrong variety that the nursery sent us and they are mixed into a block that is called the "early riskies". Those are early producing blueberries that taste good. The wrong plants are not early, they are mid to late season and they are mediocre taste. So we got ahold of the nursery and let them know and they are sending replacements this week. But the 4 year old plants need to be pulled out. I put one worker on the tractor (Kubota 7040 orchard tractor. It's tiny but mighty) and I was on the ground. I used a tire strap loop, wrapped around the base of the plant and had him pull the tractor forward, around half of the time, it tightened up and caught on the middle of the bush and pulled it out. I figured out it helped to jam a shovel into the ground a couple of times to loosen the plant up. If it still slipped, I would tighten the strap as tight as possible and cinch it with fencing wire that I had in the back of my truck. that got almost all of the plants. There were a few that still slipped, so those got more shovel stabbing of roots. So one row is down, around 25 plants.

The other employee was doing the thankless job of pulling the dead johnsongrass out of the spartan blueberry rows, so we can get sprays and woodchips down better, so after lunch I switched her to pruning blackberries. We're pretty sure only one variety of blackberries survived the winter, they aren't winter hardy to our temperatures generally, so we lose half of the crop pretty regularly. The problem is that they're the thornless varieties, much less hardy than thorned ones. But I don't know that people will want to pick the thorned ones. Something to work on. There's training the thornless ones onto a folding trellis and stuff, not sure we have the capacity to get it done. I swapped the guy working with me to pulling more johnsongrass and I went and starting moving woodchips.

We are mulching all of the raspberries with woodchips this year, changing it up from straw since the chips are easier. I got the raspberries on this side of the road all mulched this week and now I need to do the spartan blueberries and the raspberries across the road. I got a couple loads dumped that afternoon and then stopped to send the employees off at 4pm, quick chat about schedules for the week and checked the radar. Big storm blob approached, so I wanted to get one more load done. Ran over with the tractor, got it loaded, the sky started sprinking as I headed across the road. Got the load dumped, no problem. As I headed back to the house, I could see the mountains in the distance start to disappear. That's generally bad if you want to stay dry. I crossed the road, parked the tractor, closed my truck bed cover and sprinted to the house because the skies opened up. It was a half hour thunderstorm complete with the power going out briefly.

Everything was soggy after that, so I gave up on working and showered and got ready for the support group. It was decent. Small group and at the beginning the facilitator had made a comment about how the group had been quite large in it's first session in January, but gotten smaller since then, and around halfway through, someone came in late and then I understood why. The person who came in was one of those people who have something to say about everything else other people are talking about and also it was all about her. The facilitator did her best, but I get why a lot of people would have bailed. It was a decent chat though and I'm glad I went. I also got to see the downtown, which I haven't been down there in ages. It looked like there were some decent restaurants and stuff in the area, so I'll have to go and explore.

Yesterday was a lazy day. Dad and I chatted about schedules and plans and since everything was still wet, we couldn't do a ton of stuff. Oh terrible. I got my contribution to easter dinner baked (blueberry fruit bars) and then started working on the rototiller. It's a Howard, which is pretty indestructible which is good because we have a lot of rocks. We take the center tines off to renovate the strawberries and when I want to use it to prep a field, I need to put tines back on. It's a pain. But I like the rototiller for smaller plots. The potatoes still haven't arrived which is baffling, the shipping notice says they haven't given it to USPS yet. So it's somewhere. I'll get the rototilling done today and plant some peas.

Dad and I did a quick scouting and then headed up to the family party. It was a little quieter than some years, but it was a nice time. My cousin made some roasted lamb that was incredible. Lots of mashed potatoes. Yum. I caught up with family and then wandered out to the porch in my socks to watch the volleyball game. After 20 minutes or so, my uncle called me out and said if I was laughing, I should put my mouth where my money is. So I hopped down in my socks and we played valleyball until it got dark. Incredible fun. Ate some more dessert and then headed home and right to bed.

I ran for groceries this morning and also got a library card! Now I've got yogurt on the stove and then rototilling and crafting on the agenda for the rest of the day. Plus laundry.
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At this rate, I might actually finish this set of posts about the last adventure before the next adventure starts! I think there are only 3 more installments to go, and one doesn't have pictures (converting to a DW-friendly format is the single biggest holdup).

After capturing the elusive dolphins on camera, I took a nap that I badly needed. I had stayed up late on my balcony enjoying the waves in the dark and then woken up early to watch the sunrise and frolicking dolphins from the same balcony.

My friend went off to enjoy the grounds of our fancy Hawaiian ocean resort hotel.





When I texted him that I was awake and ready to go exploring, I got this amazing text back:

Very good! Do you mean here or check out and go elsewhere. I'm hanging out with a mai tai at the saltwater lagoon and almost finished, but can hang longer if you are wanting to walk the grounds.

Remember, our fancy Hawaiian ocean resort hotel came with a private saltwater lagoon and complimentary mai tais! (Because it was 10 am and he had to drive, he got a non-alcoholic one.)

I read this text to my partner later and she laughed at the "mai tai at the saltwater lagoon" part. Luxury!

So we enjoyed the lagoon and the grounds for a bit, then we went for ice cream and hiking.

Here is the lagoon )

As we were driving along the coast toward the ice cream place, we saw this spot by the coast where the ocean turned this amazingly gorgeous color, which I decided to call cerulean after my favorite crayon as a kid.

Read more... )

It's that blue streak right along the coast.

My friend and I kind of really wanted to go there, but we had a flight to make and I had already picked out our hiking spot.

So we drove on and got our ice cream at Gypsea Gelato. We sampled several flavors, and the tom kha turned out to be the best. It's a Thai flavor made with ginger, lemongrass, coconut, and turmeric. (Remember, as we established in installment 6, my favorite ice creams are herbal.)

So after we sat on the bench outside the strip mall and finished our samples, we shamelessly went back inside ten minutes later. "We're back! We want more ice cream!"

I got a PINT of tom kha. Considering we had checked out of the hotel and had a flight to make, and we were in Hawaii, known for its warm climate, I had to eat it pretty immediately. That was my lunch. You will hear no complaints from me.

So what we did was we drove along the coast toward the hiking spot I had picked out, while I ate ice cream. As we approached, I realized we were directly opposite the cerulean water.

"Omg, I hope the trail goes all the way to the beach!"

I ate more ice cream in the car (I had a whole pint to finish! and it had been sitting in a freezer, so it was pretty solid and hard to get a plastic spoon into), while my friend started hiking. As noted, I'm a much faster walker than he is, so we knew I would catch up quickly.

After getting about halfway through the pint, I put the rest in the plastic bag, looped the bag over my arm, and started hiking. Every so often, when I got ahead of him, I would stop, take out the ice cream, and eat some more while I waited for him to catch up.

The trail did indeed go to the beach!

Kiholo Bay )

Then I was leaning down to point to the rock and explain about the lava formation to him, using what little knowledge I managed to acquire and retain about geology last year.

Look, it used to be lava! )

I pushed away what I thought was a piece of driftwood that was in my way. Then I had to push it again when pointing at something else, and then I realized--

"Omg, it's an animal!"

We both startled in alarm, then realized it was dead. Eventually my friend identified it as an eel, and I said I thought perhaps it had been buried in anoxic conditions and become mummified.

You could see the belly had been ripped open and the dried-up bowels were spilling out--possibly how it died. Being a slight biology geek (not a particularly knowledgeable one, but always on the lookout for cool stuff*), I took half a dozen pictures. Here are two. Caveat viewer if a mummified eel will bother you.

Really most sincerely dead )

* Except insects/bugs, I have a squick. I wish I didn't, and maybe it will go away someday. It's definitely easing up--I was able to sit through a lengthy work conversation last year about eating cicadas without getting distressed, like at least one of my coworkers did.

Good body news!

Apr. 19th, 2025 10:08 pm
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For once.

I did an 8+ mile (exact distance not known) geology hike today (okay, my friend called just as I was arriving at the geological phenomena, so I didn't do any geology, but I went to the spots!), followed immediately (10 minute rest stop?) by a 4 mile walk to the pharmacy and back. (ETA: That's 4 total, 2 in each direction.)

There was even a fair bit of scrambling on this hike, although admittedly I went easy on my knees on the worst of it.

My knees held up, my ankles held up, my legs held up, my feet held up! My feet were starting to hurt around 12 miles, but that's expected, and I think maybe somewhat better than last year. My glutes even held up! I've been noticing lately that they haven't been bothering me for short walks, and I hoped that would translate to long walks. And it did!

My legs held up in the sense that they were still moderately sore and tired from the last week of running, and they're sore and tired even just walking around the house, so when I set off, it was kind of slow going at first. But I warmed up, and at the end of 12 miles, they were feeling noticeably stronger than at the beginning. I think I could easily have done 18. Then, after a few hours of rest at home, I went out just now, did a mile+, felt really good and restless, and really wanted to keep going, but it's 10 pm and I shouldn't.

I'm hoping my legs stop being sore this week, I can hit the cemetery hill, and next weekend, I can do a proper long forest walk. There are two nice forests about 6-8 miles respectively from here, that I never get to because the walk there and back is kind of long and boring (4-5 hours in transit), and historically my body has not held up for 12-16 miles of boring walking *plus* forest hiking. It would help a lot if I could get up to doing a 6 mile run, a 2-3 mile forest hike, and a 6 mile run home. That's been one of my running goals, which I've never achieved, because I inevitably get injured once I work up to running 5 miles.

But even without the running, I've been to the closer forest a few times, I know now to bring my spiky massage ball on 13+ mile walks and give my feet rest breaks, I've got a geology podcast for the boring parts (admittedly I cannot listen to a podcast for 4 hours in one day, but it helps a lot), and I think it might be okay at least once in the near future.

Anyway, it's good to know that while I lost all my running stamina, I didn't lose all my walking stamina. The key is to be able to do a 16-mile walk without trouble, and I think I can still do that.

The stretch goal is to work up to 30 miles (with trouble) before moving to LA, and if my feet cooperate, it's still a possibility, when I had been thinking that it wasn't.

Not quite finalized

Apr. 19th, 2025 07:28 pm
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Not quite finalized, but I talked with my friend today, and things are looking good!

He's preparing to tell his roommate that he needs to be out by October, and if the roommate haggles, conceding as far as November. But it sounds like a foot may be put down for no later than November.

Either October or November works for me; any later than early December, and it doesn't work financially, weather-wise (driving a U-haul cross country through some dicey weather), or really in terms of spending most of the academic year at UCLA.

October is slightly better for me: if we can do one trip before the October 24-25 conference, then I don't have to fly there, fly back, drive there. We can just drive there. And I don't have to pay for a month's expensive rent here in November. But if the roommate pushes for November, then darn, I guess I'll just have to enjoy another month in my favorite place I've ever lived at the best time of year. :D

Also! When I texted with my friend last week, it was all about how he'd love to do a national parks road trip this year, but he's too busy until October.

When I talked to him today, I used the magic words: "Glacier National Park" and "possible snow and road closures in October," and he was all, "Oooh! Glacier! That's the number one place I want to go! I bet I can make this work in September." See, he had a trip planned to Glacier some years ago, but it got cancelled, and he's still disappointed about that.

So now we're on for circa September 5-September 18: Minneapolis to Glacier to Yellowstone to (maybe) Grand Teton to Crater Lake. And that's enough time to make spontaneous detours if we want.

If all the parks (or any of the parks) are shut down because DOGE, then, we agreed, just driving around the surrounding areas will be gorgeous and fun too! One of our most amazing road trip experiences was post-Yellowstone, just driving through Wyoming, and it was one scenic overlook or geological phenomenon (complete with informative plaque) after another.

So it's all about motivating him properly.

Similarly, last summer, I mentioned to him that my partner and stepdaughter might need to leave the country, and if so I would like to move in with him. He was all, "That would be great, but I'm not sure if I'm willing to kick out my roommate over it."

Then I took him to Hawaii in November, and suddenly when I mentioned living together, he was all, "Yeah! That would be great!" No mention of roommate.

And now he's all, "Yeah, let's do it."

Anyway, I haven't finalized any plans on my end, because he's enough of a pushover that his unwanted roommate may still win this round, but it's looking good! He was brainstorming ways to fit the sofa bed in. ("If it doesn't go through the front door, I bet we could hire someone to lift it over the balcony with ropes and through the sliding doors!") And also "I will help my roommate look for a place to get him out sooner!"

At some point, I will blog about why I want to spend most of the next academic year in LA, but that is a future post. For now, enjoy the knowledge that my nebulous future is solidfying in some pleasing ways.
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